Do you pick out wedding rings together?
It's a question that many couples ask. After all, you'll likely choose your photographer, videographer, venue, wedding car and menu together, so surely it makes perfect sense to choose your wedding rings together?
It depends on the couple and whether they feel a strong need for the bands to mirror each other or at least share similarities. Some prospective brides and grooms feel that choosing rings together creates a more intimate and meaningful experience. Arguably, it is easier to get a better idea of the ring that would suit your partner's personality and style. Plus, it can be fun to narrow down the perfect type to demonstrate your eternal love! Trying on different rings and styles is also a great way to bond as a couple while you're planning your big day.
On the other hand, some couples prefer to retain the element of surprise by choosing their rings separately. They may want to pick out something that they know their partner will love without them having any input.
There's no right or wrong answer, but if you're unsure and need some help deciding whether to make the decision single-handedly or share the experience of buying your wedding bands, here are a few considerations.
A meaningful ring calls for a memorable experience
For some couples, the wedding band is a symbol of their love and commitment to each other. They want the experience of choosing it together to be just as special. Trying on rings together can be a fun way to bond as a couple while you're planning your wedding. You can get an idea of the metal, shape or type of ring that would suit your partner's personality. Plus, it can make the process less daunting if you're unsure where to start. You may even want to add diamonds to the wedding band to make it even more special.
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The element of surprise
On the other hand, some couples enjoy the element of surprise that comes with choosing rings separately. Wedding bands are very personal. You will wear that ring almost every day of your life, but no rule states a couple needs to agree on a metal or style. If you want to retain the element of surprise and choose a style that meets your needs and impresses your partner, why not go ahead and make the decision single-handedly? Choosing your wedding bands together is a matter of personal preference. Ultimately, the most important thing is finding a ring you love that symbolises your commitment to each other.
It's all about what works for you
There's no right or wrong answer when choosing wedding rings together or apart. It all comes down to what works best for you as a couple. If you're unsure, why not try looking at rings together online first? You can get an idea of the styles and shapes you both like before deciding. At Diamond Rocks, we have a wide variety of metals to consider, and they're all available in matt or polished:
- 18ct White Gold
- 18ct Yellow Gold
- 18ct Rose Gold
Our Wedding Band Design Tool will help to guide you through the process.
A simple design? Yes, but there's plenty to consider!
Wedding bands are generally very simplistic in design, and most people opt for a band without any large stones or a centrepiece gemstone. A band must be comfortable to wear daily, and it can get in the way if it's too bulky. It also symbolises infinity because it has no beginning or end. That said, there is still plenty to think about when choosing wedding bands! You'll need to decide on the width of the band and the metal. Do you want a plain band or one with a diamond-studded finish? There are also various profiles, such as Slight Court, Flat Court, D Shape and Traditional Court, as well as ring size, width and depth. Whether you're choosing rings together online from the comfort of your own home or visiting several local jewellers independently, make sure you at least enquire about the options available.
Traditions evolve over time
Several centuries ago, the tradition was for the bride or her family to pay for the groom's wedding ring, and the groom (or his family) to return the favour and pay for the bride's. That was a common approach before engagement rings hit the scene, however, times have changed. Today, the wedding bands are the responsibility of the couple as a unit, and there is usually very little involvement from both families. Therefore, the best starting point is to sit down together and weigh the pros and cons of choosing your rings together. After all, it's your big day, and the rings you choose will reflect your unbreakable bond of lifelong love and commitment.
Engagement rings are often picked together
Did you know that 62% of couples choose the bride's engagement ring together? Many now choose to propose to their partner without a ring, or at least a temporary engagement ring. For example, suppose a groom-to-be feels anxious about selecting the engagement ring and doesn't want to disappoint. In that case, he may choose to propose with a dummy ring, allowing his bride to pick her perfect ring or choose it together. Therefore, as is the case with engagement rings, choosing wedding bands together can be a fun and romantic experience. You can try on different styles and metals to find the perfect match for both of you. Plus, it's a great way to start the entire wedding planning process! When you've found the perfect rings, all that's left to do is say, "I do!"
If you're looking for inspiration, advice or information, our team of jewellery and diamond experts are always on hand to help. Give us a call or send us an email, or connect with us using our live chat. We're happy to answer any questions and help you navigate the many metals, designs, profiles and sizes.